Do you find it easy to make new friends? Tell us how you’ve mastered the art of befriending a new person.
These days i am reading a book ” Backpack for Life- an interpretation of Eighty Prophetic Traditions” by Qanbar Ali Taymuri, Translated by Vahida Shekofti and Mubina Vizjee published and printed by Islamic Research Foundation, Astan Quds Razavi , Mashhad- Iran.
This book as subtitle indicates is about Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.W) sayings about dealing life in a very simple but wise way.
When I see today’s daily prompt , some of the Prophet saying’s strikes in my mind which I read earlier. These following saying are perfect rules which can make us master in the art of befriending a new person. I believe in them and i try my best to follow these basic human practices so that i could be in a list of those rich people who have wealth of sincere friends and who can be a trustworthy for others.
Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.w) says:
A SMILE :
You do not have that much wealth to please everyone, so try to please people by your cheerfulness. ( Wasa’il as Shia Vol 2, P.222.)
I swear to God that my life is in His Hands, people can not give any better chairty, more lovable than saying good words.” (Mizan al Hikma Vol, 7. P.3044, T.10401.)
Some peoples’ friendship is only for carnal desires.
A few other peoples’ friendship is for gaining profit,
Some other peoples’ friendship is nothing but a cold greeting.
However, a believer’s friendship is that’ to look at him with respect, to love him, to benefit him from one’s wealth, not to backbite, visit him when he is sick and when he dies, to attend his funeral procession and after his death not to say anything bad about him.( Man La Yahdaru al Faqih, Vol. 4 P.398)
I LIKE YOU MY FRIEND:
When anyone of you likes your friend, express your feelings. (Mizan al-Hikma Vol 1, P.72, T, 201)
The person who does not accept people apologies either acceptable or unacceptable will not be with us by the foundation of Kausar. (Mizan al-Hikma , Vol 1, P.3534, T.12117)
Give gifts to each other to strengthen y our bond of love. Since gifts increase love and remove displeasure.( Nahj-ul-Fasaha, P.238, T.1189)
Whoever does something good to you and is kind to you , give him something in return and if you cannot , then pray for him” ( Nahj-ul-Fasaha, P.611, T.2992)
TO BECOME FAMILIAR:
The best believer is the one whom people get friendly with. However, the person whom people can not get friendly with and he himself does not try to get friendly with people, there is no blessing in him.” ( Mizan al Hikma, Vol 1, P. 170, T, 655)
CONTINUATION OF FRIENDSHIP:
When you find the three characteristic of prudence, trusteeship and honesty in your friend, have hope in him , otherwise don’t have hope in him. (Nahj-al-Fasaha, P.39, T, 205)
These are the perfect rules to be a good friend for people and to make people your very good friend.
May Allah help us all to be a good person and to spread love and peace all around us. ameen.