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Hidden behind the screen.

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Hidden behind the screen.

Sitting in a busy restaurant with all my attention on my sweet kids, and their naughtiness I randomly checked my surroundings and saw my hubby busy in mobile phone, then few other tables, most of the people with families or without families were busy in the same activity.

I felt lil bad, and I said to Hubby: Are you doing something important?

He said: No just …..

I said: hmmm …….

Laughing of my children bring my nerves back to normal and I get back to the lighter mood, they are my energy boosters, my power bank 🙂

Food served after few minutes and we had a lovely yummy EID dinner together.

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Now the question is, all the people who were using cell phones while sitting with family or friends, on the same table and as per my thinking they were absolutely there to enjoy and spend some quality time together?

Then why they need this cell phone?

Are we so much tired of talking and sharing to HUMANS? Oh let’s say, human around you, MOTHER, FATHER, SISTER, BROTHER, SPOUSE, CHILDREN, OKAY USING JUST ONE WORD —FAMILY!!!!!

And speaking before anything more let me make myself very clear, I am not against cyber world friends or relations , I know and I believe that good people are everywhere , I have so many friends also ,but What I am trying to say is ;

PLEASE DO THINGS ON RIGHT TIME, ON RIGHT PLACE AND IN RIGHT WAY.

We must understand the values and emotions of people around you specially your family.

Well, this is where we stand today, we know the pain, problems, hobbies, future plans, daily routine of our friends and colleagues but we don’t know WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR OWN HOME. We spend whole day  with them and then after coming back to home we are still busy in chatting with them , liking their posts on FB , sharing stuff on whtsapp, and your parents, your grandparents , your life partner are waiting for your time.

SAD BUT TRUE!

In my country where we live in joint families, Parents and siblings are all living under the same roof, and still we don’t have time for each other? We are so much indulged in this social media and cyber relations, thanks to FACEBOOK, WHTSAPP and easy mobile phone internet packages and rates.

WHY?

I WONDER, WHY?

ARE WE AFRAID OF EXPRESSING OURSELVES IN FRONT OF EACH OTHER?

SHYNESS?

FEAR of LOSING ?

FEAR of ANGER?

WHAT?

Thinking, thinking and thinking …

Yes the only reason I understand is , It’s always easy to express feeling to unknown and to the person who is not directly linked to you , because he responds you comfortably even for the blunders you make, and he can give you advises and encouraged you and SHUTDOWN the window. TING TONG BYE BYE.

And when it comes to family you are afraid of REACTION.

Afraid of Anger, sadness, tears, you are afraid that you can’t break your family trust, you can’t show them that you are depressed, broken , can’t move on … You are just afraid of MIXTURE of reactions which could possibly occur.

BUT, All I wanted to say is YOUR FAMILY LOVES YOU AND THEY WILL NEVER SHUT DOWN THE WINDOW. THEY DON’T NEED Wi-Fi TO CONNECT.

They are always there for you, good or bad, but they are with you .They deserve you and your deepest feelings, your time, your tears and smiles they deserve everything that belongs to you.

WHY CAN’T WE JUST EXPRESS AND SAY THINGS, JUST LIKE WE DO WHEN WE ARE INFRONT OF SCREENS. WHY CAN’T?

Have faith on your loved ones. Trust them!

You will be happy and peaceful if you treasure them RIGHT NOW.

TODAY they are here with you, who knows what tomorrow brings or takes!

PLEASE, SPEAK OUT YOUR HEART, LOUD AND CLEAR.

FAMILIES deserve respect and love.

And on lighter note ..

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May ALLAH bless us all and our loved ones. ameen

 

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Moments(Acceptance/ denial) !

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Moments(Acceptance/ denial) !

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Some moments are very rare, sudden and precious!

Like right now 12:37 AM, I was in bed few minutes ago, sleepy and tired and then suddenly I just wanted to speak out my heart, Sleep gone, and my eyes are wide open, brain is supplying currents to neurons on quite a good rate. (I AM GLAD TO FEEL LIKE WRITING AFTER A LONG TIME).

Coming back to rare and sudden moments, and this time I am talking about VERY PRECIOUS ONE.

I am a very average Human being when it comes to religion.

Months passed by and I don’t even open the holy book “QURAN” and then those moments when I am attracted to the book and I desperately start reading.

There are times when I don’t even notice that I didn’t offer a single prayer in a day, and there are times when I just leave everything and rush to pray; Leaving a prayer is like A BIG NO then, not because I think of SIN and all, it’s like meeting someone who really cares for you like a mother or like boosting my energy level giving you courage to move in life at your best.

I know what my religion says, Obligations, sins, rules, principals, everything! I know what is heaven for and what is hell!

But still ……

I, not only me most of us do a lot in our daily routine, family, jobs, social circle, hobbies, etc etc , even if we are tired , still we do for the sake of relationships, for earning good money, for making our life’s better, more luxurious and comfortable , but when it comes to Allah we give excuses for our basic religious practices.

May be because ALLAH can forgive you and MAN cannot.

Allah says: I CAN FORGIVE YOU FOR NOT FOLLOWING MY GIVEN RELIGIOUS PRACTICES BUT I WILL NOT FORGIVE ANY NEGLECTION OR SIN IN DUTIES TOWARD MANKIND.

How natural this saying is, very close to human nature, supporting and giving preference to humanity. Love and kindness for mankind! Not only Muslims, the whole MANKIND regardless of religion.

Allah is the most kind, and YES for people like me this is the way of finding peace. (Or a GOOD EXCUSE to satisfy ourselves)

Whatever it is, the feeling of knowing,acceptance and denying, the presence or absence, whatever is the reason I just ask Allah for MERCY and peace for every single person on this globe.

I don’t know how many people of different religion gone through this feeling but I am sure I am not the only one. 🙂

MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL AND OUR LOVED ONES.

AMEEN

I am Still here !

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Sometimes I get brainstormed so much with the same thought again and again, I caught myself thinking it and realizing it so much intensely that it speeds up my heart beat and make me hard to breath.

 

This life will end any time, any coming second will be my last one may be while writing this or may be any other day but its following me and I am getting close to it every single second, This is the fact and the biggest reality of our life, DEATH.

 

This thought overcome to every other thing I have in life or everything that I wanted to do and planning.

 

I speak to myself,

 

Why are you doing?

 

What for ?

 

And….

 

many other haunted questions ……. it is like never ending quest between me and my brain.

 

ME ?? I think, “ME” is my heart.

 

Yes! It is my heart which pushes me to life every time Brain scares me by showing bitter facts (REALITY) of life.

 

Heart ; innocent and very naughty at least mine is. If i am smiling and living it’s my heart that drags me. It is my heart that makes me believe that life is beautiful and YOU ARE STILL HERE, You are here and you need to live life until the time comes and then you have to live another life , you will just transfer from HERE to somewhere else.

 

Somewhere else, where life will be immortal and your final destiny will be like you wanted, If you live here happily, honestly and more humanly then you don’t have to be sad or feared.

 

This is my heart which is giving me energy to live for what will come anytime, so I will not regret and get pain forever.

 

Live life , more happily, more sincerely with every single relation you have and duty you are doing, More patiently , Spread love and peace, because YOU ARE STILL HERE, make your life beautiful so that when the death angel came he will not scare you. He will pull you and you will smile , ready to move to another cloud , somewhere else !

 

MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL AND OUR LOVED ONE, AMEEN

 

MAY ALLAH HELP US, GUIDE US!! ameen

 

International Women’s Day 2018

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Cleaning up the dishes and listening to the old melody on radio with my 22 months old daughter constant voice to pick her up and play with her makes me realize that this life is beautiful.

Being a house wife and mother, many women feels that they are doing nothing productive for society or for themselves and many feel that they are closed in this home and have no life as they have earlier carefree and full of joy. Sometimes women herself thinks in this way and sometimes someone else makes you feel like this by showing false sympathies and by telling you that you  can do so much more than this, why are you wasting yourself here, in this close home.

I know many women, falling in different school of thoughts but many of them are living in their homes peacefully, that doesn’t mean they don’t shout yell, fight ,get depressed or stressed or so on , but in the end she cope with everything happening negative and smile when she see her home shining with Allah’s blessings especially kids , husband. When someone praise her cooking, her home decor and above all when she gets compliments about her kids, that they behave so well, they dress so well , cutting the long story short , Freedom is in our heart and mind, it’s a peace and love which someone can feel, and It can be felt even in single closed room, Its all what we see, feel and think.

When someone says that woman and especially an educated woman is spoiling her in a home by doing nothing then I strongly disagree. Yes, Okay it could be beneficial for a society if she used her skills but staying at home and building a strong family isn’t a less precious job in anyway, for me it’s more tough and more fruitful when you build and grow a strong family and  your children grows as a kind and positive human, when they understand every black and white, This is the most important duty which a women , a mother can perform, and this 24/7 lifetime duty is the one which a mother love to do, even when her child grows up and have their own child.

True Success is doing something which gives us peace of mind and soul. It doesn’t matter where are you working ; home or professionally.

On this Women’s day I want to convey my big salute to all such women who are raising a beautiful family which results in the sensible society, I want to request people around them to love and respect them as much as possible which they truly deserves.

May Allah bless us all ,ameen

If—By Rudyard Kipling

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I just read this poem and really loved it. Sometimes words are so real and strong that they punch your soul and bring new thoughts towards you.

 

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If you can keep your head when all about you

    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

    But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

    And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

    And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

    To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

    If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

 

Lost Innocence

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Last Night I experienced a really different me, or it’s better to say that I find myself in the situation where I see a totally different ME.

I love children, I love to see them playing and asking questions , crying for toys and candies, in short I just love children, but Last night 3 kids (4-5 year old) irritates me madly by their acts.

It left so many questions in my mind.

This is what happens…

I was sitting with my family in a park, when they suddenly appeared and ask for my son bicycle and sits on it without permission and ran away, then try to grab snacks from my hand which I gave them because I want to get rid of them, but they just took the cycle and food, continuously laughing and playing with each other, not bothering that they have someone else cycle and they did not even took permission. Again they came and ask for food, I don’t know why but I suddenly lost my temper, I just forget that they are kids, and said to my husband “ Just get rid of them now and take back the cycle”, My tone of speaking was a surprise for him and he gets annoyed and said “They are just kids,what is wrong with you?” But, I can’t see kids  I just see few ill mannered people in their kid bodies , Bothering everyone in the park. My husband patience and reply makes me feel more terrible that may be I am unnecessarily getting angry.

I left the place and start walking with my kids; I was thinking, thinking and just thinking …

Those kids were very poor and they surely don’t have any facility in their house, but where is their INNOCENCE?  , which at least I can’t see?

May be I am getting rude to those kids?

Or maybe I m not as kind as I think I am,

May be I don’t love any kid apart from my own?

May be I am a mean person?

I have no fear of Allah and I am just getting mad on people he creates? (most terrible thought)

In short, I was sad and confused!

After many thoughts and arguments with myself, I realized what make me annoyed were their acts. The way they talk and behave was not childish for me at all, it is more like gangster.I realized, that those kids were treated by life harshly, my opinion, I don’t know if I am right or not, but they just brought up like that obviously by their parents, and they just lost their innocence somewhere to soon, or maybe they belong to a family where acting like this is a normal behavior.

Child without innocence is just like a grown up person who is treating life in the same way like life treats him. I feel that, without innocence and positive brought up child is not a child any more,their soul and mind are way too big than their bodies and in this particular case they grown up fast and negatively.

Age is just a number, the only thing which makes you dear and near to people is right and positive attitude, one could be still loved as a child if the soul is innocent and pure, whatever is the age. On the other hand, a child can lost all his childhood beauty and charm because of their negative behavior which is definitely because of family and many more aspects which are need to be addressed.
I just wonder, what my readers feel about this. I feel bad for myself, as being so inpatient and confused, I feel sad for those kids , A child don’t deserve such a cruel life but Allah knows better. And Yes I feel great for people like my husband , who remain kind with every single child no matter how terrible they are, whoever they are and whatever they do. Such people are a true blessing of Allah indeed.

May Allah show me and all of you a right and true path for dealing life. Ameen

May Allah bless you all and your loved ones, Ameen

 

 

New Me :)

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It’s good to be back after December 17th 2014.
So, what was the reason of my absence, hmmm … I am glad to share this with you my blogosphere friends!!
I am a mother of a sweet boy now, MashaAllah, born on 23rd December 2014. Life turns really beautiful and busy with this sweet angel .I am totally engaged with my sweet boy since then , now he is getting a proper routine and it’s possible to give time to my blog again.
Yaaayyy ! 😀
After all this is the place where I really feels like MY SPACE. Where my heart speaks!
Hope to see you all again, and May Allah bless you all and your loved ones, ameen !

Darkest day in Pakistan’s History – 16-12-14

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TURKISH FLAG flutters down for a day in the memory of Army Public School Martyrs.

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10 Facts About Pakistan

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The world’s highest mountain ranges exist in this country. They include the Himalayas and HinduKush range in which four mountains are present in the list of 14 highest peaks in the world.  K-2, the world’s second highest peak, is also located in Pakistan.

highest mountain ranges in the world - pakistan

 2- Largest Deep Sea Port in the world

Gwadar port is the largest deep sea port in the world, located on the southwestern Arabian Sea along the coast line of Balochistan, Pakistan. This  port is considered a lifeline in the region’s economy. Pakistan has agreed on a collaboration with China  to turn Gwadar into a full scale commercial port.

Largest deep sea port in the world - gwadar pakistan

3- Highest paved International Road

Do you know the “eighth wonder of the world” is located in Pakistan? Karakoram Highway has been constructed at a height of 15,397 ft between China and Pakistan. It is one of the popular tourist attraction in the region.

highest paved international road Karakoram-Highway

4- Second Largest Salt Mine in the World

Khewara Salt Mines are the world’s second largest and Pakistan’s oldest salt mines.  It was discovered by Alexander’s troops in 320 B.C. These salt mines are the largest source of salt in the world producing 350,000 tons per year. However, the salt mines reserves are estimated to be about 600 million tons.

secong largest salt mine in the world - khewara salt mine

5- One of the Largest Desert In The World

Thar desert is located on the border of Pakistan and India. It is the world’s ninth largest sub-tropical desert. This desert is about 10,000 years old and was once a water source for Indus Valley Civilization.

One of the largest deserts in Pakistan - thar

6- Highest Polo Ground in the World

Shandur Top is located in Gilgit, Pakistan and called “Roof of the World” elevated at 12,200 ft. Every year a polo match is played between Gilgit and Chitral teams. People from all around the world come to watch this match.

highest polo ground in the world - shandur gilgit pakistan

7- Largest Irrigation System of The world

The world’s largest irrigation network are present in Pakistan. It serves 14.4 million hectares of cultivated land. The irrigation system is fed by water from the Indus River. The main features of the system are  its three major storage reservoirs, namely, Tarbela and Chashma on the River Indus and Mangla on the River Jhelum; 19 barrages; 12 inter-river link canals and 43 independent irrigation canals with the total length of the main canals is 58,500 km.

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8- Largest Ambulance Network in the World

Edhi Foundation is the world’s largest non-profit social welfare organization. This organization provides 24-hour emergency services, medical & healthcare services and shelter for orphans.  Abdul Sattar Edhi started the service from a single room and now it has over 300 centers all over the country. It has branches in other countries such as UK, USA, Canada, Japan and China.

Edhi - largest ambulance network in the world

9- First Islamic Country To Attain Nuclear Power

Pakistan became the first Islamic country to become Nuclear Power on 28th May 1998.  The country ensured its solidarity in the face of threats from its long time nemesis neighboring country.

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10- More than 50% of World Footballs are made in Pakistan

Sialkot is a city famous for making sports equipment.  Hand-stitched footballs are a trademark of this city. Around 60 milion hand-stitched footballs are produced in world cup year in small firms in Sialkot, Pakistan. This year 42 million official football Brazuca were exported to Brazil for FIFA World Cup 2014.  Even NASA tested this football and declared it the best football ever made.

50 percent of football in the world are made in pakistan