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International Women’s Day 2018



Cleaning up the dishes and listening to the old melody on radio with my 22 months old daughter constant voice to pick her up and play with her makes me realize that this life is beautiful.

Being a house wife and mother, many women feels that they are doing nothing productive for society or for themselves and many feel that they are closed in this home and have no life as they have earlier carefree and full of joy. Sometimes women herself thinks in this way and sometimes someone else makes you feel like this by showing false sympathies and by telling you that you  can do so much more than this, why are you wasting yourself here, in this close home.

I know many women, falling in different school of thoughts but many of them are living in their homes peacefully, that doesn’t mean they don’t shout yell, fight ,get depressed or stressed or so on , but in the end she cope with everything happening negative and smile when she see her home shining with Allah’s blessings especially kids , husband. When someone praise her cooking, her home decor and above all when she gets compliments about her kids, that they behave so well, they dress so well , cutting the long story short , Freedom is in our heart and mind, it’s a peace and love which someone can feel, and It can be felt even in single closed room, Its all what we see, feel and think.

When someone says that woman and especially an educated woman is spoiling her in a home by doing nothing then I strongly disagree. Yes, Okay it could be beneficial for a society if she used her skills but staying at home and building a strong family isn’t a less precious job in anyway, for me it’s more tough and more fruitful when you build and grow a strong family and  your children grows as a kind and positive human, when they understand every black and white, This is the most important duty which a women , a mother can perform, and this 24/7 lifetime duty is the one which a mother love to do, even when her child grows up and have their own child.

True Success is doing something which gives us peace of mind and soul. It doesn’t matter where are you working ; home or professionally.

On this Women’s day I want to convey my big salute to all such women who are raising a beautiful family which results in the sensible society, I want to request people around them to love and respect them as much as possible which they truly deserves.

May Allah bless us all ,ameen

Women in East : One Perspective !




We Women!!

We born, we live a life under the warm shelter of our parents, they raise us, feed us, educate us, prepare us for the one big thing which we are unaware of but they start thinking of it as soon as they know they are going to have a baby girl, as soon as they first hold us, when we take our first step, when we say our first word and when we step into adulthood, their worries grow as we grow.

Each one of us experiences the stories of our mother, How she grew up, how she help her mother in household chores and cooking in very early age, how she sew cloths and never misbehaved or disobeyed. All of these stories are the daily doses whenever we neglect or miss any duty assigned to us. Our Mothers tell us stories of their leaving the home, living without parents and siblings, living for their respect, living for husband happiness, living for in laws happiness, how they sacrificed, how they ease every one’s pain, how they supported their husband and family. They portray an ART MOVIE in our minds and we women think feels and grow up.

We grow up with dreams, with love, with stories, some of them makes us feel love all around the atmosphere, it’s like hearing sweet bells ringing with a magical fragrance around us, making us fly high up in the sky with all of the love and happiness and sometime the stories open that chapter of the book which is not understandable like a riddle, like a puzzle, un-solved, a mystery.

We grow up, we complete the training and now it’s time to take exam, Self taken test (Love) or Surprise test (Arranged), whatever the kind of exam it is, we women have the final tip/guidance/suggestion/ and prays by our parents, to stay happy and make your home like we did, be patient and ignore little things which might hurt or confuse you, you are going to a new place, adopt them, everyone will love you and will help you, our blessing are with you, do not let us down, make us proud…and they say good bye with tears, with worries of our future, they send us to a brand new home with all the training and guidance which they have been doing since our birth.

And on next step, we are in a whole new world, we look around like a rat coming out from his house, or rabbit who is trying to be safe from all the danger, we step in the new life, with new EVERYTHING, even the NEW US !

For some of us, the training with stories works really well, for some average or less than average and for some they don’t work at all. Whatever the case one thing is common, WE ARE ALL STUCK UP! In fantasy, happiness, discovering, building up new relations, making them happy and proving ourselves a RIGHT CHOICE for all of them. Very right choice, indeed.

We women find this chapter of our life differently, we feel differently, we manage it differently, we react differently but all of us die to share this with our parents, especially with the chief instructor OUR MOTHER.

Mothers also react differently, some says keep following my training and tips even if they don’t work in your exam, some says NO, stop and change the rule accordingly, and some says I don’t know what to do? Because she, herself has been a confused wife till now. Some says to handle the situation by you.

In all the cases, we women stuck up badly, some are making it worst, some turning them to normal, some are deeply attached with a new life with all the happiness. In this entire scenario we slowly indulged in our new home with husband, kids and in laws, even with the family friends and far relatives.

Everything comes to a track except for the few who fails and turns back to parents home. They face a new exam which re-born a new Women. 

Women who pass the exam happily fit into their new home. They get busy, really busy as per their mother instructions, everyone is happy, everyone is satisfied, and we don’t even get time to see ourselves as the same women who once had her own identity which she gave up to be a good wife, daughter and for all the other relations which suddenly popped-up into her life just like a surprise token comes out of detergent box in marketing campaign.

We were sweet daughters of sweet parents, but we are happy that we make our parents proud, we kept their respect! UNTIL a day we hear these words come questions: You do not care about us any more, you do not come to stay with us, you are just for your in laws now, it seems like you do not remember us but your husband, why did you adopt this habit? Why don’t you come in family parties? Why have you changed your hairstyle? Why only you cook every day?

A shocking call from the life we were living before, from those people who pushed us in the new life, with a lesson to live, live and live for marriage and all related to this. A whole new bunch of questions and answers…..

We stand, we listen, we try to fix things for every single relation and the life moves on like this.

The life moves on and we women fight our battle with perseverance!!

Will we Sink or Swim ???





A cup of tea !


Before coming online i was making tea for family.


We use to take tea after dinner , lunch , in breakfast and when there is nothing to do, WE TAKE TEA. Not only in my home but all over the Pakistan making it the 3rd largest tea importer in the world. Anyway , I make a cup of tea for you as well 🙂



Anyway ,i want to share something which really surprised me ,may be because it matters a lot to me and every Pakistani.

I went to my Parents home yesterday and spend few hours in our small library where i cleaned up the books and re-arranged them. While arranging the books i saw the book which is based on a research. Research title was women farm workers in Sindh, done by Mr.Veerji Kohli and assisted and financed by http://mehergarh.org/ and German Embassy.

I read this book before but could not stop to read it again. As i opened the book , turned the pages i saw this page (GLOSSARY)


And the SURPRISE ..Rupee definition is :

60 PKR = 1 $

Goshh … when was that ? in 1990 ? this book is too old ??  PKR was not so bad against $ !! My first thought

but then my mind insisted , No Not at all Afsheen ! you read this book just few years back.

I quickly checked the year of publishing and it was 2007. I was astonished and told this to my Abu (Father) as it is a BREAKING NEWS OF TODAY but he smiled and said ” Dollar was only 40.9 in Year 2000 and even lesser than this in earlier years” and i was just thinking what happened to PKR ? Major currency down fall , which is obviously not making me happy 😦

and yeah i forget to mention , these days RUPEE definition is :

108.465 PKR = 1 $

Whatever the reason i wish to see my currency a better and stronger one. May Allah help us ! Ameen